Opposites needed for optimal Bonding, including Sexual Bonding.

Men’s capacity to love brings fun and excitement.
Women’s capacity to love brings comfort and pleasure.

A woman should create comforting and pleasurable adventures in her relationship lifestyle. This encompasses sexual communications, intercourse, and bonding.

A man would not get the most development by learning to give his wife pleasurable experiences. It is better for him to learn to receive his wife love and affection, and the comforting and pleasurable adventures she offers.

Men should create fun and exciting adventures in his relationship lifestyle. Including sexual communications, intercourse, and bonding.

Men to be motivated yet balanced

Vigorous and passoinate enough to provide stability. 
Strong enough to be gentle.
Dominant enough to be Patient.

Slower Rhythms of Sexual Intercourse.

 Climbing the Ladder or steps rhythm, makes her gradually aroused and plateau.

 Her emotions and her mind receiving and coming to terms with each sensation gradually, and within her mind and emotions ability to deal with intercourse, and his powerful and determined communications. Step by step bringing her to orgasm.
It is more akin to a slower, suspenseful, determined, rhythm yet still passionate. 

She may what a rhythm that communicates gentleness and tenderness.

Slower short movements or just gentle rocking.  This attends to her desire to to get his capacity to love, and develop trust during this process as well. So the gentleness and tenderness can get her to relax, receive love and build give her confidence for successful intimacy between them. She proceeds to enjoy the gentle and tender love she feel from him.

In time with Meditative Breathing, Rhythm of Sexual Intercourse.

In line with each of her breath intake to train her mind to receive your love. 
Separately, in line with her breathing out, to train her mind to share her love, and you partaking of the unique way she loves you.
Somewhat of a creeper, She can roll into orgasm and feel aftershocks. 

Being sill to create intimacy.

 

You can make her feel this with your touch including your penis.

Vigorous and Passionate Communications of Intercourse

Fastest communication of intercourse -
I will live you and nothing will stop me.
This is exciting, she will feel his vigorous, passion communication,  overwhelmed by fast stimulus.
This is a very fast rhythm similar to “break away songs”. Not sustainable for a long time.

The more stable fast rhythm similar to fast beats type of music -
Determined to care for you and give you fun and excitement.
she feel his is strength and stable
More sustainable for a long time and more common.


Alternative but must be chosen carefully in the fast intercourse communications - 
Lose control and surrender it to me: I will take control and make everything OK
                    Accept the fact you will make mistakes, accept the face you may not always know what to do.   
              I can overcome the situation; I can over come you; and make everything OK.
            You are more important to me than your mistakes. You don’t have worry about your mistakes. I will make everything OK. So you can be free.
               This very risky as this borders on “controlling”. Both partners must agree to participate at a relationship level,  not just at the level of the act. 

Another  risky communication of  intercourse is -
I will overcome you and drive your bad moods away, 
Again it is considered an ‘intervention’ or ‘tough love’ and borders on ‘controlling’. Therefore both partners must agree to participate at a relationship level,  not just at the level of the act. 

In line with most of a woman motivation to engage sexual intimacy -    
She may want the fun and exciting experience of being “Ravaged”.
She want to feel sexy and thus desired, She want to feel drained to the point of exhaustion. For you to be quelled and become “reasonable” by her beauty and delightful-ness. To feel you passionately and vigorously drain all her capacity to love you with her  beauty and delightful-ness, till she reaches orgasm. After which she will rest and recover, with her body producing more energy as a result of you draining her.

You can make her feel these with your touch including your penis.

The love is there, the trust is there, we can be a family, is the most powerful reward circuit in our mind.

 The love is there, the trust is there, we can be a family, is the most powerful reward circuit in our mind.
 When a baby nurses they develop this bond with their Mother. As the child grows and displays love. With this display being met with a verbal and non verbal communication of grace. This reaffirms this early covenant, ‘The love is there, the trust is there, we can be a family’      
Relationship/Sexual Covenants can replace that is adulthood. False covenants and Chemical addictions will fill this void, if a person has not been filled in this place from their mother or the person they are intimate with.
When trying to quit false covenants and chemical addictions, a  person may feel the yearning for them is acute and unignorably intense, feeling like they are dying. Even the craving crawling under their skin. Because of how powerful the need to feel “The love is there, the trust is there, we can be a family’ covenant.
Here the covenant ‘ I will always show you grace, and I will always show the way you love me grace, therefore we will always be together’  Can fill this void.
JESUS Covenant and Communion can breaks the hold False covenants and chemical addictions, and fill this void. Thus enabling them to now form healthy covenants. 

The 80%/20% ratio of women’s desire for affection and sexual intimacy.

 20% of women's quest to have sexual intimacy can be based on agreeing to receiving love. They have excellent ability to be tolerant of pain and fun in their day to day activities. This increases when they are worried, or even concerned for someones well being.
80% of women's quest to have sexual intimacy can be based on their need to love someone. The excitement and joy that comes with effective demonstration on some one receiving their care and attention. 

 Men are brought up to be tough, thus they will not be inclined to show responses to her use of her beauty and delightful on him. But when he responds, her arousal and peeking emotions increase. As this fills that need within her to experience successful loving some one with her unique capacity to love. 
Men are similarly inclined. Women who find sexual intimacy fun and exciting, end up motivating men more to do fun and exciting things in their relationship lifestyles. He will respond to her response, and this will determine the direction he will go, and how creative he will be, in sexual intimacy.

 

Relationship lifestyles and sexual intimacy requires your best foot forward.

Women give comfort and pleasure and men give fun and excitement.
Men receive comfort and pleasure and women receive fun and excitement.

Intercourse is a pleasurable experience for men and a fun experience for women. 

The rhythms of intercourse will match certain rhythms of music as both are communications coming from emotions.  

It goes to say, women must bring 'comfort and pleasure' activities in their relationship lifestyles. Men must bring 'fun and excitement' activities in their relationship lifestyles.

Women talk to bond, and men work together to bond, and is included in healthy sexual intimacy.